In my twenties and of course I have always heard / hear trust your instinct / trust your guts but what I have only just realised this year is, knowing that you have an instinct doesn’t necessarily mean that you listen to it.
It took a series of events that occurred in my life this year for me to believe that my instinct are always right and I haven’t been listening to it. I used to be the “call up my friends , my mum or sisters” to share the situation I find myself in / dilemma/ problem and generally seek advice , now not every advice that’s given to you by your loved ones is really the key to the door you seek and this is not to say that they give bad advices.
Instinct is that sneaking suspicion that you feel when something is not right but you can’t put your finger on why. Instinct can be a powerful guiding force and is more developed for some than others. Some people feel a strong urge or sense in there core when something is wrong while others, with a less developed instinct , might feel a small inkling that they aren’t really sure how to interpret it. Some people are born with a strong instinct and know how to listen to it from an early age whereas others develop their intuition or tune into it as they grow a stronger sense of self-confidence. The more that you love and trust yourself, the more in touch you become with your instinct.
Why is trusting your gut so powerful? Because your gut has been cataloging a whole lot of information for as long as you’ve been alive. Trusting your gut is trusting the collection of all your subconscious experiences.
It holds insights that aren’t immediately available to your conscious mind right now, but they’re all things that you’ve learned and felt. In the moment, we might not be readily able to access specific information, but our gut has it at the ready.
One too many times in the past few months , I said “I regret not going with my gut” and all these events is what prompted me to take time out to reflect. Here are a few things that helped.
1: After interaction that requires a decision on your part, give yourself mental space to reflect. Instead of giving an immediate response. Spend time alone. Even if it’s just a minute. If its a bigger decision you need to make,I recommend creating a larger window before you need to respond. “Start telling people: ‘I need to sleep on this, I’ll get back to you tomorrow.’ Start building that response into your conversations, especially with the people you work with most. It’s telling people that’s how you work.” Start to think back and do an audit of your day. It’s intentional mind wandering.
2: Be aware of your feeling by developing an awareness of how you feel during situations. Do a body scan of what’s going on for you. You may think, I feel nervous right now, or I feel like I’m not sure what’s coming next. Use those skills of emotional labeling to get in touch with what your gut might be saying to you.
3: List every time your instinct served you. Being instinctive isn’t simply an innate trait: It’s a quality that increases or decreases given how much we practice doing it well. It is recommended listing all the times you trusted your gut and whether the outcome was favorable.
At some point we’ve heard that ‘little voice’ whispering unexplainable reasoning and guidance from within. It’s called our instinct or ‘gut’ feeling and it shouldn’t be taken for granted. I’d like to hear some of your experiences on this issue , kindly leave a comment down below or email me : email@example.com